From the desk of WFA president Julaine Appling:
I was out doing some early Christmas shopping this weekend. In my local Menards, I was in the toy aisle, carefully looking over all their offerings for appropriate gifts for the little people in my life.
At some point I was in the aisle with mostly cars, trucks, building sets, helicopters—all of which had moving parts and noise–and other, yes, I’ll say it, boy toys. A little boy, probably 5, was enthralled with the push-pull planes and helicopters—and everything else in the aisle. He couldn’t contain his excitement as he rushed from one item to the next, all the while carrying on a question and answer with his mother. “Look at this, Mom!” “Hey, Mom, this is great!” as he ran from car to truck to plane.
As I was happily watching him, his sister, who was about 7 or so, came around the corner. She was holding a small stuffed animal and effusing to her Mom about how wonderful, how cute, how cuddly this little dog was. Mom patiently listened and entered into her daughter’s excitement.
I said to a friend who was with me, “This is amazing. These two kids are just naturally attracted to and taken by the toys that are traditionally seen as very sex-specific.” About this time, the Dad showed up. I suspect he was doing some kind of very manly thing like buying supplies to keep the house warm and dry for his family this winter.
Ok. So we couldn’t resist this. My friend, who was standing pretty close to the mother, said, “Your kids are adorable, and we’ve enjoyed watching your son in particular make a beeline for the boy toys.” What the mother said next was very interesting. She said, “You know, from the time he was born, he has had a natural inclination for toys that moved. We only had our daughter when he was born, so we only had girl toys. But from the time this little guy was old enough to move himself around, he always somehow saw and made his way to the few toys that had wheels. The first one he found was a car; it moved. He was happy!”
I imagine many of you parents listening to this commentary today can relate similar stories. You didn’t bias or prejudice or cajole your son to like toys that made lots of noise and moved or your daughter to prefer stuffed animals, dolls, kitchens, and other girl-type toys. They were just doing what came naturally to the way God designed them.
This little real-life situation this past weekend was timely for me. More and more we are seeing in our culture attempts to make boys more feminine and girls more masculine, and to make it seem as if gender is a choice. In fact, today too many cultural elitists, especially members of the media, talk in terms of gender being “assigned.” Talk about messing with our kids! It’s little wonder that so many kids today end up being confused. Way too often their parents, teachers, and others in their lives have tried to bend the twig, as it were, in a direction it simply isn’t designed to go.
This so-called “gender confusion” is directly related to a more basic problem. When several generations of Americans now believe that they are just evolved and are simply animals subject to their emotions and hormones and are their own arbiter of right and wrong and have accountability to no one, most especially not the Creator God, all of this and much more should be expected.
God clearly made the sexes—male and female—not “intersex” as some are now including in legal definitions of “sex.” He made them distinct from one another, yet decidedly complementary. Male and female made He them. That’s the Truth. No amount of wishful thinking, surgeries, cross—dressing, or forcing kids to play with toys typically designed for the opposite sex or anything else will change this truth.
Trying to redefine the words “sex” and “gender” so that they are weirdly different from each other isn’t going to change God’s ultimate plan for humanity either. What all of this will do is truly and dangerously confuse children. They will be fighting against their natural tendencies, God-created tendencies. By the time they reach junior-high, they will be ripe for the groups that pose questions such as, “Do you feel different from everyone else? Are you finding yourself attracted to people of the same sex? Do you sometimes feel like the sex you were assigned at birth was wrong?” These young people are easy prey—and before long, their confusion gives way to choices that are most decidedly not in their best interest in the short term or the long term.
From everything we are seeing, this “gender confusion” issue is ramping up. Parents, do your part to make sure your children enjoy their gender and respect the other gender. Show them the beauty in God’s design. That’s a life lesson that will serve them well all their days.